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Use anger as motivation

TIP: Anger isn't all bad. In fact, anger can motivate us to take decisive action towards the things we covet most.  Use your anger! When you're mad, step back and reassess. There may be a couple things you want to add to that "to-do" list! What is it you want? What's blocking your progress? What … Continue reading Use anger as motivation

Pinpoint your anger

CHALLENGES: you didn't get the promotion, your salary increase was too low, your bonus was less than expected, you didn't get the job offer, the deal didn't close   REACTIONS: anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness, loss of confidence, disengagement     GOALS: resilience, grit, motivation, confidence, goal oriented behavior     TIPS: Isolate the source of … Continue reading Pinpoint your anger

Disappointment

CHALLENGES: you didn't get that promotion, your salary increase was too low, your bonus was less than expected, you didn't get job offer, the big deal didn't close REACTIONS: anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness, loss of confidence GOALS: resilience, grit, gratitude, confidence, motivation TIP: Okay, so harsh reality didn't meet your expectations and now you're experiencing … Continue reading Disappointment

MentalNote_Change

CHALLENGES: new job, new boss, unwanted change, new bonus plan REACTIONS: uncertainty, fear, anxiety, stress, confidence loss, anger GOALS: confidence, optimism, grit, resilience, openness, adaptability TIP: Recognize and manage your mixed feelings. You don't want to let your personal struggles with change cloud the positive potential a new boss, job or program may offer. If your feelings about … Continue reading MentalNote_Change

Anxiety

SITUATIONS: merger, acquisition, new job, new boss, job offer EMOTIONS: uncertainty, fear SCIENCE: Anxiety, depression and uncertainty are closely related. Anxiety is a feeling of dread about the future (Baumeister, Vohs, Aaker & Garbinsky, 2013). When we anticipate harm or danger, we get anxious (Clark, Beck & Brown, 1989). The main sources of depression are failure … Continue reading Anxiety

Uncertainty

CHALLENGES: merger, acquisition, new job, new boss REACTIONS: uncertainty, fear RESEARCH: Research shows that uncertainty will make a bad event seem even worse (e.g., Arenas, Tabernero, & Briones, 2006; van den Bos, Euwema, Poortvliet, & Maas, 2007; Wiggins et al.,1992). The good news - the research also shows that the more people understand an event … Continue reading Uncertainty

Uncertainty

CHALLENGES: merger, acquisition, new job, new boss, job offer REACTIONS: uncertainty, fear, anxiety RESEARCH: Psychologists view uncertainty as an uncomfortable lack of information (e.g., Hogg, 2000; Weary & Edwards, 1996). We need information to feel in control (Berlyne, 1960; Imada & Nageishi, 1982; Inglis, 2000). TIPS: Think back - before all the good things that have happened in … Continue reading Uncertainty