Watch the self-sabbotage

TIP: Don't self-sabotage. An common way to take the pressure off is by doing things that make a successful outcome even less likely. Common forms of self-sabotage are procrastination and alcohol or drug abuse. Remember, self-doubt is natural, especially for people taking on difficult tasks. RESEARCH: When we doubt our own capabilities, a common defensive … Continue reading Watch the self-sabbotage

Use your anger

TIP: When you're really pissed, you're in a good frame of mind to make positive changes. We're genetically hard wired to use anger as a positive motivator. Don't lash out, think things through. You're focused now. That's good! What's your plan? RESEARCH: when we get angry - our heart rate increases, our testosterone increases, our stress … Continue reading Use your anger

Pinpoint your anger

CHALLENGES: you didn't get the promotion, your salary increase was too low, your bonus was less than expected, you didn't get the job offer, the deal didn't close   REACTIONS: anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness, loss of confidence, disengagement     GOALS: resilience, grit, motivation, confidence, goal oriented behavior     TIPS: Isolate the source of … Continue reading Pinpoint your anger

Disappointment

CHALLENGES: you didn't get that promotion, your salary increase was too low, your bonus was less than expected, you didn't get job offer, the big deal didn't close REACTIONS: anger, frustration, disappointment, sadness, loss of confidence GOALS: resilience, grit, gratitude, confidence, motivation TIP: Okay, so harsh reality didn't meet your expectations and now you're experiencing … Continue reading Disappointment